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This is a place where you can learn with me how to do the little things adults do.  An instructional account of the things they don't teach you in school but are vital in the beginnings as a new adult in a new environment.


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Learning How To Close The Door
May 9, 2018
Learning How To Close The Door
May 9, 2018
May 9, 2018
Feb 20, 2018
Learning How To Say I Love You
Feb 20, 2018
Feb 20, 2018
Learning How To Live Without Pliés and Tendus
Nov 17, 2017
Learning How To Live Without Pliés and Tendus
Nov 17, 2017
Nov 17, 2017
Learning How to Practice
Sep 3, 2017
Learning How to Practice
Sep 3, 2017
Sep 3, 2017
Learning How to Make New of the Old
Jul 7, 2017
Learning How to Make New of the Old
Jul 7, 2017
Jul 7, 2017
Learning How to Cure Nostalgia
Apr 29, 2017
Learning How to Cure Nostalgia
Apr 29, 2017
Apr 29, 2017
Learning How To Grow Out Of Your Childhood Bedroom
Apr 6, 2017
Learning How To Grow Out Of Your Childhood Bedroom
Apr 6, 2017
Apr 6, 2017
Learning How To Slow Down
Mar 11, 2017
Learning How To Slow Down
Mar 11, 2017
Mar 11, 2017
Learning How To Be Green
Feb 25, 2017
Learning How To Be Green
Feb 25, 2017
Feb 25, 2017
Learning How To Love Your Body
Feb 17, 2017
Learning How To Love Your Body
Feb 17, 2017
Feb 17, 2017
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Learning How To Close The Door

May 9, 2018

“Any kind of change is really hard. It’s hard to see something you care about come to an end. But change isn’t bad. It’s scary, but it’s not bad. It’s almost always worth it. You have to embrace it, with baby steps, by doing what makes you happy while pursuing that new direction.”

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In lifestyle Tags learninghowto, learning, closeonedoor, anotheropens, freshstart, graduation, queensuniversity, dealingwithchange, transition, adulthood, school, kingston
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Learning How To Say I Love You

February 20, 2018

 I’m not especially equipped in writing this because, as you'll find out if you continue reading, I'm actually not very good at saying I love you. Maybe it stems from childhood when, as a little girl, I would wipe kisses off my cheek in disgust. But actually, I don't think that's it. Let me go into this a little more.


I've thought a lot about the words "I love you" on various occasions. Sometimes it seems like the weight of the world is put on this three-word declaration. For many of us, we're groomed into the belief that love, in all shapes and forms, is the sole purpose and intention of our existence. So if we don't find that love, in partnership or in career, it's going to be a fairly miserable time. And maybe for this reason alone, it's a great resource of motivation.


Yet, the gratitude of love is most evident in relationships. Someone once decided that a pivotal stage in a relationship is this point where a couple decides to officiate their togetherness with the exchange of these words. Only then can they carry on to the next stage, brought to us by the fictitious rule book of relationships. Complications begin to arise when one person says it, but not the other, or, if the relationship never actually reaches this point.


Personally, I hate confrontation, so being put in the position of having to make an announcement like this makes me shift in my seat. But that's not to say I don't believe in this relationship stage...to an extent.


I'm of the belief that love needs to exist in a relationship (duh) of any kind. But I also think the value in which it's felt should exceed the value put within its vocalization. It's more important to feel loved for it to be genuine. Words can be dishonest. They can be shrouded in misinterpretation. They can also be contrived and empty. And in too many instances of repetition, words can lose their flavour.


Another thing that puzzles me about "I love you" is that it almost seems as if it were an incomplete statement. I love you, but why? I love you because..? I love you how...? Try putting any interrogative after the three little words and it automatically becomes more interesting. "I love you" is lazy, but "I love you for your silly Dad jokes" tells a story.


With some help, I've grown to become affectionate and understand the significance of love in a relationship. And I've both said and heard "I love you". But one of the most important things I've learned is that showing you care is essential. If saying "I love you", though a fleeting series of words, is how you know how to show affection, do it. But don't discount that love can be shown through even the smallest of gestures or even the simplest of words. And most importantly, never forget that love is not just a part of your vocabulary, but rather something unique that makes your heart feel warm.

In lifestyle Tags learning, valentinesday, Love, Relationships, Iloveyou, learninghowto
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** photo by my dearest friend Maggie Shipton

** photo by my dearest friend Maggie Shipton

Learning How To Live Without Pliés and Tendus

November 17, 2017

how I'm adjusting as a retired ballet dancer

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In lifestyle, dance Tags lifechange, change, ballet, ballerina, learning, dancer, careerchange, transition, adapting, retireddancer, learninghowto
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    • May 9, 2018 Learning How To Close The Door
  • February 2018
    • Feb 20, 2018 Learning How To Say I Love You
  • November 2017
    • Nov 17, 2017 Learning How To Live Without Pliés and Tendus
  • September 2017
    • Sep 3, 2017 Learning How to Practice
  • July 2017
    • Jul 7, 2017 Learning How to Make New of the Old
  • April 2017
    • Apr 29, 2017 Learning How to Cure Nostalgia
    • Apr 6, 2017 Learning How To Grow Out Of Your Childhood Bedroom
  • March 2017
    • Mar 11, 2017 Learning How To Slow Down
  • February 2017
    • Feb 25, 2017 Learning How To Be Green
    • Feb 17, 2017 Learning How To Love Your Body
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    • Dec 24, 2016 Learning How To Do Christmas
    • Dec 15, 2016 Learning How To Cook Pasta
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